The Magic of a Nine-Year Age Gap
When we decided to try for another baby — nine years after having my first — I’ll admit, it felt a little surreal. Life had found its rhythm. Henry was growing up fast, and for a long time, I thought my little family was complete. But something in me just knew there was still space for one more little soul.
And then came Ivy. 💕 From the moment she arrived, she filled every quiet space we didn’t even realize was waiting for her. She completed us in the most beautiful, unexpected way.
Watching Henry with her has been one of the greatest joys of my life. He tells me all the time how much he loves her. The other day he said, “Mum, Ivy’s the only person who doesn’t think I talk too much,” (He’s a chatterbox just like his Mum 👀) which pretty much sums up their relationship — full of sweetness, chaos, and a lot of giggles. He’s protective, patient, and so proud to be her big brother. Of course, there are moments of madness (a 9-year-old’s Minecraft world doesn’t always mix well with a baby who loves pressing buttons 😅), but somehow, it all works.
If you’re worried about a big age gap between your children — don’t be. It’s one of the most amazing things ever. Sure, every family dynamic has its pros and cons, but a bigger age gap brings its own kind of magic.
Here are just a few reasons why a bigger age gap can be so special:
1. The bond is pure and intentional
Older siblings want to help, to love, and to be involved. There’s no competition — just admiration and care. Watching that kind of love unfold is incredibly heartwarming.
2. They balance each other out
One brings the calm, the other brings the chaos — and somehow, it’s the perfect mix. You get the best of both worlds: the quieter, more reflective moments with an older child and the silly, unpredictable fun of a baby.
3. Built-in role model
Your older child becomes a teacher, a storyteller, a guide. Henry delights in showing Ivy how things work, and she watches him like he’s a tiny celebrity — which, to him, is clearly fame.
4. A deeper appreciation
Having another baby later often brings a sense of calm and gratitude. You realize how fleeting each stage is, and you soak up every moment — even the sleepless ones.
5. A little helper (and part-time entertainer)
Here’s one of the major perks: your nine-year-old can actually keep an eye on the baby while you dash to the loo or try to make dinner without burning it. It’s like having a built-in babysitter — unpaid, slightly dramatic, but surprisingly effective.
Having children with a bigger age gap means the noise levels might fluctuate wildly — from teenage sighs to baby squeals — but somehow it all blends into the sweetest kind of soundtrack. There’s laughter in one room and lullabies in another, and in between it all, a growing friendship that melts my heart daily.
So yes, our house is a mix of giggles, tantrums, homework, and naptimes — but it’s also overflowing with love.
A nine-year age gap might not have been what I first imagined, but now I can’t picture it any other way. Ivy completes our family, and Henry reminds me every single day just how lucky we are. 💫
Mamas life adventures 